I have a friend (hi David) who loathes people who meander slowly down the street with their eyes glued to their iPhone. I don't know if I would go so far as to say I hate them but they certainly irritate me despite the fact (mandatory disclosure notice) that on occasion I have been one of them. Despite my occasional lapses it is something that I try not to do as I consider it rude. Common good manners would tend to indicate that one should look where one is going. Common good manners are, however, becoming increasingly uncommon.
Keen eyed readers will note that I didn't preface that last sentence with the word "unfortunately". This might seem a little strange because I actually value good manners quite highly. However I am somewhat ambivalent in general terms as to whether bad manners are actually a bad thing. On the fact of it of course bad manners are bad, that's why we call them "bad". They're inconsiderate, rude and selfish. On the other hand bad manners are an indication of how relaxed and tolerant our society has become.
Manners are not something we're born with, they're something we learn. Or to put it another way, they are something we are taught. People have been teaching manners (and its more socially acceptable cousin etiquette) for pretty much as long as the human race has been around. Why? What is it that made our distant ancestors with their shorter lifespans and limited time for the imparting of essential wisdom decide that manners of some sort (varying with the society of course but every society has some) deserved to be squeezed in between how to grub efficiently for bugs and which types of berries were poisonous? I suspect the answer is, fear.
Good manners and intricate etiquette are generally indicative of a violent and brutal society. When the simple act of walking down the street in a particular fashion can provoke somebody to run a sword into your guts then learning the appropriate modes of behaviour is very important indeed. The more elaborate the ritual, the more wincing the care taken not to offend the more likely it is that buried somewhere in that culture's past are grim penalties for transgression. People learned good manners not because they wanted to be nice to each other but to reduce the likelihood that any of the neighbours would murder them. Conversely they would be narrowly watching those self same neighbours for any indication of a slight which would require avenging.
Manners thus go from being the affectations of an effete society to an essential survival tip in a vicious and essentially lawless world. When your life depends on not giving offence then manners are very important indeed. Conversely as the organs of civilisation (or at least civilisation's idiot stepbrother, government) strengthened, as the state became more able and more willing to enforce its own codes of acceptable behaviour and withdraw punishment for transgressions from the hands of individuals it became less necessary for those individuals to do likewise. Many people think that we, as a species, have got ruder. I doubt it. I rather think we were always this rude but now we're less scared. Possibly surly ill manners are the hallmarks of a successful civilisation.
For those people deeply offended by the inconsiderate bastards who insist on texting as they're walking down the streets one of two options remains. Either suck it up or round up your kinsmen, dependents and vassals and lay waste to the offender's huts and crops. If you choose option two I know at least one person who will ride with you.
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